ARE YOU HAPPY?
Updated: Apr 5
Are you happy?
Is your goal to be happy?
I think being happy an elusive thing, especially in today’s society where many people base their “happiness” on what they own, who they know, how they are perceived by others, or what type of job they have.
I think that as a result reality and fantasy are often confused so finding time to care for ourselves can be challenging. Finding time for inner reflection can seem impossible. We get lost in the shuffle and sometimes lose our perspective on what actually drives us. And let’s face it, you can’t know what’s going to make you happy if you don’t even know what you really want from life.
Because of this, many people don’t even know where to start in order to be a happy person. And look there is no secret formula, because everyone is different and everyone’s version of happiness is going to be different. Don’t get stuck in what you think should make you happy. And if you’re having to actually think about whether or not you’re happy, you probably aren’t.
All too often we are led to believe that by obtaining goals or possessions we will feel happier. But the reality is that when we reach those destinations, our happiness levels quickly return to their original set-point. Indeed, happiness often leads to success, but success does not always lead to happiness.
Instead, research shows that the best way to maintain consistent well-being is to focus on the everyday changes you can make in your life, with altruism, gratitude and quality relationships being important factors. The more you know about yourself and are in touch with the real you, the happier you’ll be. Just remember, happiness isn’t about a specific destination. It’s about the journey and your state of mind. Open your mind to all life’s possibilities and enjoy the journey for what it is without undo expectations.
More often than not, we find happiness where we least expect it. And sometimes, when we forget about the destination and just enjoy the journey, life hands us unexpected, but much needed, surprises.