AVOIDING BEING AVERAGE
Recently I spoke to you in a podcast about the comfort zone actually not being that comfortable and that we have to step out to be successful.
Today I want to go a bit further than taking small steps out of your comfort zone and I want to talk about how you avoid being average. Instead how you become THAT girl. When I say “THAT GIRL” I don’t mean basic bitch. In fact I’m trying to steer so far away from the basic bitch vibe.
The fear of being average has been on my mind lately. My partner and I went for dinner for our year anniversary and we spoke about how you have to take risks to get ahead.
I believe every human being has an innate power and a hidden strength that lies deep within them.
We often see these gifts emerge in childhood and yet as we grow, they start to fade. By the time we are fully grown, responsible, well-functioning adults, the spark of brilliance that makes us beyond average is often gone.
Sometimes we get crushed by life. And that makes us average. We no longer have the energy to make something special or follow something unique.
But I don’t want to be average, and I’m pretty sure, you don’t want to be average either.
There is a saying- Expecting change to happen whilst doing more of the same is the definition of insanity.
Are you prepared to think and do things differently to get what you want? Will you step out of your comfort zone to get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want?
If you were to measure any population on anything, such as income levels, intelligence, athletic abilities, and even beliefs and values. You will find there are a few people at one extreme and a few at the other. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle, or are average.
Being average keeps us safe because we are like most people and there is safety in numbers. But, being in the middle, doing or being like most of us gives an average performance and this gives us average results.
It takes a significant event, sometimes an external event outside our control, to break us out of the thinking and the actions we engage in that cause us to stay in this zone.
To get better than average results we have to do or think non average things and by definition this means we must operate outside the comfort zone. We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so we can have the life that is waiting for us.
Borrowing from Aaron Webber, CEO of Webber Investments, the goal shouldn’t be so much to change your life to avoid being average, but rather, to define and refine your own average in such a way that it leads to more inspired state of average.
Here is what I mean.
To be extraordinary, you have to define your own average.
Webber points out the statistical concept of reversion to the mean – whereby statically speaking, you will always return to your average.
You can experience moments of great success, innovation and daring. You can also experiences failures and fall flat on your ass. Either way, you will ultimately return to your average state.
Given this, the best course of action isn’t so much to avoid doing what everyone else is doing.
Rather, to stop being average, you should strive to create your own mean, your own average that is driven by sense of action, responsibility and results.
You are naturally going to return to your natural average self, so you should strive to make it as unique, driven and as purposeful as possible.
I don’t think that anyone truly wants to be average. But maybe I’m wrong, maybe they do. but by definition most people fall into that category. Break out of the mould and do work that separates you from the rest of the pack through these five strategies.
1. Retrain Your Brain
As long as you as an individual… can convince yourself that in order to move forward as best you can you have to be optimistic, you can be described as ‘one of the faithful,’ one of those people who can say, ‘Well, look, something’s going to happen! Let’s just keep trying.'
The power of belief is staggering. That can be both good and bad. If you believe you’re average you will inevitably remain average. However, if you believe you can be great, doors will start to open. Put some effort into convincing yourself that you’re not just another average person. Convince yourself that being average is a limit you impose on yourself, and keep reminding yourself that you are limitless. The next thing you should do to be more than average is…
2. Attract What You Want
The best case scenario is for what you’re after to come to you. Success is extremely attractive, so one of the best ways to attract what you want is by demonstrating your success. Prove to anyone who meets you that you fall in the “above average” category. If you want someone to consider you for your dream job, make it a point to show them why you’re that person’s dream employee. The smartest, simplest way to do that is to always put in your best effort. So you should…
3. Really Do The Work
Being average can often equate to being, well, lazy. If you know you can accomplish more but choose not to exert real effort and rise above your peers, the shoe most definitely fits. You may not get fired from your job, but you sure aren’t getting that big promotion. If you’re only making a minimal effort, you’ll only find minimal success. To get further in life you need to really put in the work. If you decide things are “good enough” you will quickly find yourself becoming stagnant. If you keep telling yourself that you can do better, you will become better. But there are other people trying to become more than average, too, so you have to work…
4. Harder, Better, Faster, Stronger
Be better than your peers by being engaged in what you’re doing. Eliminate all distractions by finding a calm environment. Carve out a place for yourself that is free from the regular demands of your daily life so you can just do the work. The best thing you can do is find somewhere quiet, but even if you are working in a chaotic chaotic you can tune everything out with a pair of headphones and the right music.
5. Don’t Be Forgotten
Average can also mean invisible. If you only do what is asked of you, there’s no reason for people not to forget you. People will remember you if what you do is memorable, so produce work of such a high quality that there’s no way it or you can be forgotten. One trick is to make sure what you offer is distinct from what anybody else does. Find a way to produce things that are truly unique. You can’t be average if you’re original.
Come leap into the unknown with me. Let’s do it together and see what we can create. Because average is good, in some circumstances, but most of us know we have so much more to offer!