• Nikki Jane

Build your confidence in 10 actionable steps!

The only way to build your confidence is to give it a go. BUT this is hard. Its more than challenging. So I have put together a few tips to help you out. These tips will help you if you want to know more bout self confidence, wish you were more confident and want to actionable steps to build your confidence.

Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.

A confident person does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular. They are willing to take risks but admit when they make mistakes and learns from them, able to accept a compliments, and is optimistic.

Ask yourself why do you not feel confident? What is it you are afraid of? Is it what other people will think? Is it fear of failing?

Here at Boss Business bodies we don't fail. WE LEARN. But that's a whole other blog topic.

Tips for building self-confidence

There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.

1. Look at what you’ve already achieved

It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you've done.

2. Visualize yourself as you want to be.

Visualization is the technique of seeing an image of yourself that you are proud of, in your own mind. When we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is often inaccurate. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals.

3. Affirm yourself.

Affirmations are positive and uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. These are normally more effective if said out loud so that you can hear yourself say it. We tend to believe whatever we tell ourselves constantly. 

4. Do one thing that scares you every day.

The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. By doing something that scares you every day and gaining confidence from every experience, you will see your self-confidence soar. So get out of your comfort zone and face your fears!

5. Think of things you're good at

Everyone has strengths and talents. What are yours? Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities.

6. Set some goals

Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.

7. The Power Pose

Body language plays a big part in how we feel. By forcing our body into 'power poses' we instantly feel better and more confident. The classic wonder woman pose is the perfect one to practice before you are about to do something that you don't feel too confident about.

8. Question your inner critic.

Some of the harshest comments that we get come from ourselves. Strategies such as cognitive behavioral therapy help you to question your inner critic, and look for evidence to support or deny the things that your inner critic is saying to you. For example, if you think that you are a failure, ask yourself, “What evidence is there to support the thought that I am a failure?”.

9. Get a hobby

Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.

10. Care for yourself.

Self-confidence depends on a combination of good physical health, emotional health and social health. It is hard to feel good about yourself if you hate your physique or constantly have low energy. Build your self-confidence by making the effort to look after your own needs.

If these aren't quite enough for you then you can always reach out to a professional. Professionals such as counselors and psychologists can help you develop strategies to help you build up your confidence. They may also be able to help you understand any underlying problems that might be causing you to have negative feelings towards yourself.

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