SELF ACCEPTANCE VS SELF ESTEEM
Following on from this weeks podcast interview with Sophie Gray...
Though related, self-acceptance is not the same as self-esteem. To me self-esteem refers specifically to how valuable, or worthwhile, we see ourselves, whereas self-acceptance alludes to a far more global affirmation of self.
Most people determine their worth based upon other-esteem. They seek approval and validation from others, and their opinion of themselves isn’t very high unless they get it. True self-esteem isn’t based on what others think of you, It’s what YOU think of you. You may think well of yourself and your competence in some areas, but not in others, and your estimation may fluctuate with illness and life’s ups and downs, but if you have good self-esteem, you’ll return to feeling good about yourself.
Unlike self-esteem which varies, self-acceptance is steady and unconditional. You accept yourself despite your flaws, failures, and limitations. You’re more self-forgiving and let go of self-judgment. It includes self-forgiveness and overcoming guilt. Instead of comparing yourself to others, both positively and negatively, you appreciate your singular individuality. You feel that you’re enough without having to improve upon yourself.
Self-acceptance works wonders. Once you start accepting yourself, you gradually stop worrying what others think and become more spontaneous and natural. Self-acceptance is what allows you to be authentic. You can finally relax, and allow more of the inner, real you to be seen. You’ll have no shame or fear of revealing yourself when you accept yourself unconditionally. This is the key to intimacy and spiritual relationships and enables you to accept others.
When we're self-accepting, we're able to embrace all facets of ourselves. This allows us to confidently be our best selves every day. No matter what condition we show up in that day. That’s worth working on.
So this week I ask you, do you accept yourself fully?